With kids, work, friends, Facebook (the list goes on) to maintain, the chances are your love life might be a bit like the plant in my dinning room, really, really thirsty and a bit wizened looking. We’ve all got busy lives, but if we can get our heads around a sensory box for our toddlers with 17 different ingredients, or spending our weekends driving a pre-teen from one social event to another, I really reckon we can scrub up a wee bit to er ‘water’ some life back into our relationships! So, you’ve managed to drag your potentially stuck in a rut butts out on a date night (or in, for this post extends to stay at home date nights too!), now what? How can you make sure you really rock it?
Don’t worry, I’ve put together my tip top tips that will quench even the thirstiest of relationships*!
*Caviate…I’m no expert!
5 ways to Rock a Date Night
You’ll not hear me say the ‘p’ word very often but unless you get some dates in the diary, it ain’t never gunna happen! Also once you book some date nights in the calendar it means you can organise it properly; sort out baby sitters, book in a bikini wax, get the steak in, etc!
2. Make an effort
Get a bit glammed up; get your hair done if it needs it, sort the aforementioned bikini, shave your legs, nice clothes, perfume, etc. We get glammed up when we go out with the girls so doesn’t the fella you love deserve a bit of that?! Even if you’re staying in, how nice, how sexy does it feel to make that effort?
3. Ditch the phone
And anything else that might distract you. This is your opportunity to be present. You really don’t need to tweet a picture of your main course (and then check your messages)! If you’re watching a film, watch it together. Using instagram at the same time doesn’t work. I’ve got the failed date night to prove it.
4. Have sex first!
I know this will mess up your hair and it will require the scheduling skills of a university secretary to achieve it, especially if you’ve got a baby sitter on the way…but let’s face it, the main goal of a date night is to reconnect and ultimately have sex! If you ‘do it’ first you’ve already reconnected on an emotional level, any weird barriers from little tifs or whatever else have been broken down, and you’re ready just to have a good time and properly chat. The other crucial thing about this is you have achieved your goal before you drink too much (because you never go out) and end up passing out in bed in your dress…(just me?)
5. Do something thoughtful
If your partner’s language of love isn’t physical, do something else thoughtful that they will really appreciate. A little meaningful present (doesn’t need to be expensive, I’m thinking something that reminds you of your honeymoon or a mixed tape from the year you met) OR, if they like a clutter free existence (I can’t imagine), have a good ol’ tidy up OR write them a love letter that they can find while you’re getting ready. Corny but doing something that shows you put in a bit of effort for your partner’s benefit will remind them of the old days, the pre-kid days and why they fell in love with you… Ahhhhhh!
Really, these are just a few of my thoughts, little notes to remind me to make the effort… It’s so easy to get caught up in family life, and how exhausting is that?! But you and your partner are the cornerstone of it all, and only you know what works for your partner, so don’t forget to water that relationship!
What are your secrets for rocking a date night?!
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