time flies when you're being a mum

Time for Mum

if you’re anything like me, you find it difficult to even find time to have a wash, there’s always something more pressing. Here I’m hoping to encourage myself and you to put yourself first a bit more!


because I'm struggling to read at the moment!

21 Feb, 2019

Listening
I haven’t read anything for AGES!! But I have been listening to stuff, so I’ve a couple of things on my recommends list.

Listening list

 

Firstly, The Self-Care Project by Janey Hardy was a nice, quick, easy to digest book about, you guessed it, self-care! I really enjoyed it and found it to be so helpful to reframe some of those ‘jobs’ that you can’t be bothered to do or feel guilty for doing. Self-care is so important, especially if you’re a mum with a family that depends on you. It can often be the last thing you want to do but the cracks start to show very quickly and a frazzled mum does not make for a happy family. So, have a listen (or read!) if you feel like you need to pay yourself a bit of attention.

 

Secondly, upon the recommendation of my pal and Yoga teacher, Natalie (Natural PT), I listened to Brené Brown’s lecture, The Power of Vulnerability. I listened to this over a series of evenings while feeding Nancy and settling her to bed. Phew, what a great listen! She’s an researcher of shame and vulnerability and hit the big time when she did a TED talk that was seen by millions of people (as of writing this it’s more that 9M!!!). The whole premise is really interesting. She also shares some great parenting tips. I feel like I need to listen to it over and over again to really let the messages sink in. Here’s her TED talk as a little taster, but I’d highly recommend having a listen.

How do you find time to read? Or do you listen too?

I’d love to hear what you’re reading and listening to at the moment. What do you recommend?

Comment below or come chat on the Mums’ Days Facebook page or Instagram.

Baby weight

Feb
18th
2019

It’s time to start losing it

18 Feb, 2019

Nancy’s turned 3 months, life has calmed down a wee bit and routines are starting to fall into place, so my attention has turned to this baby weight that has no intention of ‘dropping off with breastfeeding’.

I’m going to Baby Weight Bootcamp!

The problem with being knackered is you don’t make great food choices (or I don’t) and you surely don’t want to exercise (or I don’t). I turn to caffeine, sugar and rubbish white carbs. In the first couple of weeks this was ok and I still lost weight. Over time, however, I have put any weight I lost back on but by then it was too late. The bad habits had taken hold.

So it’s time for a diet and exercise overhaul. As of next Monday, I’m doing a 6 week bootcamp (45 min class, 3 time a week), with the aim of losing some weight and getting some energy back.

I’m going back to Elite; 4 years  ago, almost to the day, I started their 6 week program and lost 20lbs. I found it such an amazing experience. I loved the workouts and found the diet both effective and not too restrictive.

You can watch my weekly video diaries from when I did the Bootcamp last time, including the final video where I share what I’ve learnt, by visiting this post, Final Weight Loss.

Prepping for Baby weight Bootcamp

This week I’m in that weird space before all the action starts. I don’t want to fall into the diet-tomorrow trap and eat sh*t all week, so I’m focussing on getting prepared, both in terms of the diet and having the right foods in, but also prepping myself for the exercise.

Abs

I’ve done a couple of exercise classes since having Nancy and I’ve noticed my back gets tired very quickly due to a lack of core strength. So, I’m going to do this 10 minute core workout by Carly Rowena (she’s a personal trainer who had a baby a month after me). I did it this morning with Nancy lying next to me watching.

Hip flexers

In addition to the core workout I’m also going to spend some serious time stretching my hip flexors. Tight hip flexors (from loads of sitting – breastfeeding anyone?) can also cause lower back pain. I am by no means a runner but this is a helpful how to video.

I’ll let you know how I’m getting on!

What ways have you found to be helpful to lose the baby weight?

 

 

Grandma time

Feb
12th
2019

12 Feb, 2019

My Mum has always worked (or studied) full time. Well, she’s a primary school teacher so she’s always worked more than full time. But recently she went part time and it’s been amazing!

Not only has she had time to pursue her own interests – something she had very little time for as she’d normally be working every night and weekends – but she’s also been coming to see Nancy and me on a Tuesday!

We get to have a good old natter and, in true mum style, she helps me with stuff. The first week she came I had about 50 things that all needed name tags. She did at least 45 of them.

The next week her toy hospital was open and then she helped me get a bunch of books out of storage onto the shelves.

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This week  (after tidying the kitchen and walking the dog) we had afternoon tea together. I bought her afternoon for two at Matfen Hall for mother’s day last year and we finally got to use it.

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It it was so nice!! Delicious treats with my lovely mum. I feel very lucky to get to spend so much time with her now.

Sweaty Betty

Feb
11th
2019

11 Feb, 2019

I put a call out to the FB community today in a confessional manner to say I am currently sweaty AF.

Breastfeeding this time around has resulted in a serious armpit situation to the point where my current favourite, natural deodorant, Pitrok (which makes me sing ‘I can make you Pit rock’ to the tune of Bedrock by Young Money, every time I use it), is no longer able to hold back the flood gates.

Noice huh?!

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Now, I was aware that putting out such a call for action could have resulted in the internet equivalent of tumble weed (no comments) but thankfully the Mums’ Days FB community have some up fake-armpit-trumps and made a bunch of suggestions.

Others merely showed solidarity with my plite by saying “me too 🙋‍♀️ I am also sweaty”.

Thank you, fellow pit pals.

So, my plan is to test drive a bunch of deodorants and let you know how I get on.

Some are woohoo crystals. Others look like blocks of cheese. But I’m quite excited to see how I get on.

  1. Japanese Cherry Blossom from The Body Shop – £4
  2. Crystal deodorant stick – £5.15
  3. Driclor Solution – £6.19
  4. Aromaco solid deodorant from Lush – £5.50
  5. Perspirex – £8.49
  6. Earth conscious – £7

I shall report back. This is edge of the seat stuff, so I hope you’ll enjoy the rollercoaster!

Weekly wins

Feb
08th
2019

a bit of the good stuff

08 Feb, 2019

It’s Friday! We made it. Phew, what a week of ups and downs. On a personal level it’s been a tough old week.

It was also jab day today and while the jab itself wasn’t so bad, Nancy’s got progressively grumpier 🙁 She’s currently sleeping on my lap after crying for about an hour. While she’s settled I’ve been looking back through the weeks’ photos. I thought it would be a nice opportunity to share some of the good bits. Our ‘weekly wins’!

My parents came to stay

Mike was away doing a winter survival mountaineering course in the lakes (as you do and perfect winter weather for it), so my parents came to stay. I’ve been seeing lots of my mum as she’s recently gone part time and comes to see us with her new found freedom (LOVE IT). But we hadn’t seen my dad since Boxing Day.

It was lovely catching up with him, building snowmen (there’s still a tiny snow lump in the garden now!) and going for Sunday lunch at our local.

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I started blogging again

Well, you are reading this on my blog after all so not news but it is a win! I’ve missed blogging so it’s been fun to share some of the lighter side of life here on the blog. You can see each of the posts I’ve written here: Dear Diary, Reading, BOOTD and Breastfeeding.

We went to Spanish City

Mike was off so the intention was to go for a walk with the dog on the beach front. We weren’t really prepared though and didn’t have the right gear for the hoolie that was blowing…so we went to Spanish City instead. Ooh it’s lovely. We ate delicious brunchy stuff (bacon and avocado on toast) and took home cakes which we ate in the car. Heaven.

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I did two exercise classes

It’s been about 12 months since I did any sort of proper exercise class so, as my mate Tanya put it, I did the 2 hardest ones at my local gym – body blitz and HIIT. I totally loved it though and have booked to go back next week. The nice thing about being able to say “I’ve just had a baby” is the instructor takes it a little easier on you as you have safe words like “ab-split” that you can say when you’re tired!

I’m easing in, OK?!

Nancy’s coming along lovely!

She’s just a delicious treat! And one who’s starting to move about a bit and get stronger. She’s loving a bit of tummy time (as long as she’s in the exact right mood of course) and she’s started to crane her neck to see what’s going on around her. Mainly to listen to her fog-horn brother!! Who she loves and the feeling is mutual. Aww 🙂

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What have your weekly wins been?

I’d love to hear. Comment below or over on the Mums’ Days Facebook Page or Instagram.

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