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Time to Love tagged with 'sex during pregnancy'

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27 Apr, 2012

Courtesy of  SERGE BIELANKO, from babble.com/dadding

Now I haven’t intentionally been thinking about it but sex during pregnancy has popped into my head a few times. For example, a book I downloaded about pregnancy didn’t download properly apart from the bit about sex (so I read it), it’s a topic of discussion amongst pregnant women, etc. so, I’ve naturally got to thinking about it in more detail – enough to want to write about it. Plus, it all counts as exercise, right?

A wee while ago I mentioned some of my pregnant friends had gone off it. And, then in another post I mentioned that pregnant woman can get a libido surge. It’s a bit of a mystery as to which way you’ll go – yuk or yes?

But never mind the lady in all this, apparently it can be just as much as a minefield for men. They too can go off it as much as we can. I can’t imagine anything worse than feeling like a fat, horny blubber whale and your fella saying, ‘not tonight babe, I’ve got a headache,’ which would be interpreted as you look like a fat blubber whale. But, at the same time the advice is to not take it personally, cut them some slack, do other things to be intimate (probably with the lights off), cuddle, etc.

I have recently found Pregnant Chicken, a blog about pregnancy and it is hilarious, please have a good read. I came across this post the other day about sex during pregnancy and more specifically the dad’s role, which sums it up just nicely. I’m not sure if this is the done thing, but it is so funny and so right that I’ve had to quote it for you …

As for you Dads, I recognize that this is a really tricky time. This rockin’ hot woman is morphing into the beautiful mother of you child and sometimes it’s difficult to get in the mood. A baby is involved now. A baby! How can you do dirty things to your baby’s mother?

I’ll tell you how. You damn well think of something and man the hell up because this is your moment, buddy. This is when the woman you love wants to feel sexy, and beautiful, and wanted, so you make that shit happen. You tell her she looks incredible and that you want her just as much as you always have. Don’t tell her that you want her no matter what she looks like – “Luke, it’s a trap!” – because that will be deciphered as her looking not good.

I hear ya sista! – or you hear me. Not that I’m having this issue at home, apparently Mike really fancies me at the moment (massive boobs, nuff said). But, I have read that a chap can get all grossed out at the thought of doing the dirty with a pregnant women and as far as I’m concerned this is exactly the time when your pregnant woman needs to feel good about herself and sexy (I realise I’m just paraphrasing what’s been said above now but it’s just so right!). So get to it.

And, Ladies, if the last thing you want to do is bonk and you couldn’t give a beep what he thinks, then forget this post ever happened.