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It’s easy with little ones to forget about your partner so this category is all about lurve and keeping your relationship alive!


It's Valentine Competition Time!

27 Jan, 2016

Back in December I was invited by the All in One Company to design onesies for all the family. I can now confirm that I have spent most/all of January, hiding away from the cold and the rain in my onesie.

All in One company - my onesie design

My Onesie Design

Competition Time

Because I think everyone should have a onesie, I’m happy to say that I have a Valentines Competition to win £100 to spend at the All-in-One company!

You can either give the gift of comfort to your loved one and design them a special valentines present… or keep all the pleasures for yourself (I would not blame you!). Scroll to the bottom for more info on the competition! (more…)

04 Oct, 2014

With kids, work, friends, Facebook (the list goes on) to maintain, the chances are your love life might be a bit like the plant in my dinning room, really, really thirsty and a bit wizened looking. We’ve all got busy lives, but if we can get our heads around a sensory box for our toddlers with 17 different ingredients, or spending our weekends driving a pre-teen from one social event to another, I really reckon we can scrub up a wee bit to er ‘water’ some life back into our relationships! So, you’ve managed to drag your potentially stuck in a rut butts out on a date night (or in, for this post extends to stay at home date nights too!), now what? How can you make sure you really rock it?

5 ways to rock a date night! 1. Plan 2. Make an Effort 3. Ditch the phone 4. Have sex FIRST 5. Do something thoughtful - click here for the full post and start rocking your date nights! http://mumsdays.com/how-to-rock-a-date-night

Don’t worry, I’ve put together my tip top tips that will quench even the thirstiest of relationships*!

*Caviate…I’m no expert!

5 ways to Rock a Date Night

1. Plan!

You’ll not hear me say the ‘p’ word very often but unless you get some dates in the diary, it ain’t never gunna happen! Also once you book some date nights in the calendar it means you can organise it properly; sort out baby sitters, book in a bikini wax, get the steak in, etc!

2. Make an effort

Get a bit glammed up; get your hair done if it needs it, sort the aforementioned bikini, shave your legs, nice clothes, perfume, etc. We get glammed up when we go out with the girls so doesn’t the fella you love deserve a bit of that?! Even if you’re staying in, how nice, how sexy does it feel to make that effort?

3. Ditch the phone

And anything else that might distract you. This is your opportunity to be present. You really don’t need to tweet a picture of your main course (and then check your messages)! If you’re watching  a film, watch it together. Using instagram at the same time doesn’t work. I’ve got the failed date night to prove it.

4. Have sex first!

I know this will mess up your hair and it will require the scheduling skills of a university secretary to achieve it, especially if you’ve got a baby sitter on the way…but let’s face it, the main goal of a date night is to reconnect and ultimately have sex! If you ‘do it’ first you’ve already reconnected on an emotional level, any weird barriers from little tifs or whatever else have been broken down, and you’re ready just to have a good time and properly chat. The other crucial thing about this is you have achieved your goal before you drink too much (because you never go out) and end up passing out in bed in your dress…(just me?)

5. Do something thoughtful

If your partner’s language of love isn’t physical, do something else thoughtful that they will really appreciate. A little meaningful present (doesn’t need to be expensive, I’m thinking something that reminds you of your honeymoon or a mixed tape from the year you met) OR, if they like a clutter free existence (I can’t imagine), have a good ol’ tidy up OR write them a love letter that they can find while you’re getting ready. Corny but doing something that shows you put in a bit of effort for your partner’s benefit will remind them of the old days, the pre-kid days and why they fell in love with you… Ahhhhhh!

Really, these are just a few of my thoughts, little notes to remind me to make the effort… It’s so easy to get caught up in family life, and how exhausting is that?! But you and your partner are the cornerstone of it all, and only you know what works for your partner, so don’t forget to water that relationship!

What are your secrets for rocking a date night?!

Do share your comments below, I’d love a few insider details! xxx

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Happy Anniversary Mike!

May
13th
2014

Are you ready for the 3 year itch?

13 May, 2014

Yep, tomorrow is Mike and my anniversary – 3 whole years of marriage. Happy Anniversary baby!

Mike and I, 14th May 2011 - Happy anniversary

5 years ago today I met Mike (properly. We had met once before, and I totally fancied him, but it was awkward and I thought he was someone else). It really was one of those eyes meeting across the room moments. We were at the opening party for an annual conference, and rather than networking, I spent the rest of the evening talking to Mike. We were virtually inseparable from that moment on. 12 months later we were living together, 6 months after that he proposed (under duress) and 6 months and a day after that (are you keeping up?) we were married on a gloriously sunny day in May! On our 1st wedding anniversary I put together a post about the actual day, with lots of photos if you click on that link.

I love my husband very much. We still get on so well, he’s my best friend and we hardly ever fall out, which in some respects is quite lucky considering the whirlwind nature of our relationship and the fact we were still getting to know each other! So, I guess 3 years in this is when it starts to become harder…we do know each other now and we have seen each other at our very best and our very worse (giving birth was probably both of those moments!!).

And, obviously day to day life for the two of us isn’t what it was – we spent the first 2 and half years of our relationship pretty much partying, so once I got pregnant and after a baby, that was going to change!

I know it’s normally called the 7 year itch but, while reading around what to write for this post, I came across this interesting article by therapist, Michael Kimmel, called The 3 Year Itch. In it he says that relationships start to become ‘boring’ around the 3 year mark!! He says:

“I’ve noticed that after about three years’ together, many couples hit a wall called “boredom”. It often manifests in the following ways:

  • You become bored with yourself, your life, your job;
  • You let your social life (with your partner and on your own) fade away;
  • Your sex life with your partner becomes almost non-existent;
  • You let yourself go (gaining weight, not exercising, eating poorly); and
  • You take your partner for granted.”

I don’t want to give anything away but I can relate with a few of those! I can really recommend reading Michael’s article because he goes on to talk about boredom being a mask for fear and WHY you shouldn’t scratch the itch (and look for someone new!) because long-term relationships are a challenge but the benefits are immeasurable!

Now…I wasn’t intending this joyful day to be overshadowed by an itch or boredom or fear! I know that Mike is my soulmate but I also know that being in a longterm relationship is hard. This is the longest relationship either of us has ever had, so we’re now in new territory.  But I’m not about to start getting itchy! Any problems we have are things that we will work through together. I made a vow to do so, after all, and I meant it. This is more just a reminder that it is going to get harder but working at it, together, will be the glue that keeps us stuck together forever. Cheeeeeese!

Are you ready Mike? I love you so, so much. Happy Anniversary xxxxxxx

p.s. this is in place of a card 😉

A parents' day off to Epic Kielder - part 2

11 Sep, 2013

This is the second of our Epic (heroic or grand in scale) his&her blogs about our date, sans kids, to Kielder. The first was by yours truly, a woman’s perspective of this ‘activity’ date. And this is the second by him (Mike).

So, for the first time ever here is a blog post from my husband, Mike!

As the editor, I perhaps should have removed some of the PDA (public display of affection) but, hey! it’s not every day you get some words of affirmation for all to see! So, it’s staying.

Quick introduction; I’m Mike (Hannah’s husband), and whilst away with her enjoying our day and night in Kielder, it popped into my head that I should write a complimentary blog post of our joint experience, from the man’s point of view. It didn’t just pop into my head, because if it did, that’s where it would have remained. Instead it tripped off my tongue and out into the open, where Hannah seized upon the opportunity to act as my editor. To be fair she’s been far from a tough task-master, and I’ve been allowed to merrily leave this until the last minute, so here we *finally* go…

The Date to Kielder – by him

Kielder excited me for many reasons: I like the outdoors, I love biking (used to), I like massages – who doesn’t?, I like country living, country pubs, and best of all this was a chance to spend some time with my wife, alone; without children. That last bit was the important bit for me. Whilst we try to make time for each other, inevitably with young children, extended family and work commitments it’s hard. Mostly it’s Reuben who makes this hard, we can’t just do impromptu meals or drinks on an evening as we used to. Even organising a time to visit Kielder proved to be logistically taxing. But in the end we managed and here’s what happened.

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A parents' day off to Epic Kielder

10 Sep, 2013

Yesterday I introduced my newest category “time to love” because, while there’s a lot of love in our house it isn’t always the LURVE kind. So, this here “EPIC” (I’ll get to that in a moment) blog kicks off the first of a series of posts about love and relationships and keeping it all alive while you have little ones running around ravaging your time and energy levels! Because this is an extra special date, sponsored by Visit Kielder, both Mike and I have written our own his and her points of view about the date. So, without further ado I bring you…

Our Epic Date to Kielder Water and Forest Park – by her

Probably the first thing you are thinking is why am I using the word Epic? I agree, no one over the age of 12 should use it. However, I’m not using it in the #epic (or worse still #EpicFail) sense but in the Oxford English Dictionary sense (“heroic or grand in scale”). Which therefore makes it OK.

Kielder is Epic. A lake that is huge, wild, remote and stunning. It has a quiet about it that you just can’t get in the Lakes (which is why I found the Lakes a bit claustrophobic when we visited is July, there are people and cars everywhere!). All things you probably wouldn’t associate with something that is manmade. That’s how epic it really is.

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