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Taking action and putting a foot in chaos

25 Apr, 2018

Ah, confidence. You tricksy little bugger.

It’s been on my mind this week, starting with a conversation between my brother and my step-daughter. She told him how she was really enjoying taking LAMDA exams because it helped with her confidence. My brother was impressed to hear an 11 year old say such an important thing. Funny how you sometimes need to see things through other people’s’ eyes to fully appreciate how awesome they are.

Confidence

We talked about how important it is to instill confidence in our children, particularly in young women and he pointed me to a book, The Confidence Code for Girls (due for release on 3rd May. Pre Ordered y’all!).

I was like, nevermind just Gabby I need this book! (more…)

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How I've been learning to face them and move on...

20 Mar, 2018

On Sunday I sat down to write. I wanted to document a funny week and it’s turned into a 2-parter. This one is all about facing your fears and how I do it/hope to do it.

Mike is away in Tanzania. He’s been facing his own fear of heights as he climbed Kilimanjaro (read his story here) for Team Kenya (who are changing lives through empowering and educating women). Thankfully he’s done it and is safely back down. He gets home on tomorrow morning. Yey!

It’s also my Birthday today! It doesn’t feel much like it…It was just Reuben and me, and after the initial flurry of present opening (I didn’t open a single one!) it was back to business as usual!

facing your fear

Reuben decided today was the day to address the issue of not being allowed to play on the switch on the way to school, and he discussed it for quite some time coming to the conclusion I’m a horrible person. So fun.

(If you’d like to do me a Birthday Favour please fill in this! < More info at the bottom.) (more…)

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Life plans, hopes and happy routines

06 Mar, 2018

I used to listen to podcasts every day but when I stopped blogging, this stopped too. I’d forgotten how great they really are! I loved the conversation and all the weird and wonderful things you could learn.

Thankfully my husband, Mike, made me listen to this James Altucher podcast last month. Since then I’ve been avidly listening to the rest of his shows and finding them really motivating. Each one seems to inspire me to write.

find your conversation

I tend to listen to podcasts whilst out walking the dog (hence the massive coat and headphones) or when I’m driving

Two weeks ago it was Sara Blakely (owner of Spanx) who rocked my tiny mind with her ‘I’m an awesome dork’ attitude. It got me to open up and write 8 things that have happened. I’m still cringing from that post but “embarrass yourself and fail often” were key features that stuck out from the Sara interview. (more…)

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In my experience anyway...

28 Feb, 2018

A week ago today I had a Laparoscopy, so I thought I’d share how it went and what’s been happening since…

For those of you who don’t know, the reason I needed a laparoscopy in the first place was because my mirena coil had ‘gone for a wander’. When it was put in,  the wall of my womb was slightly ruptured and that was enough for the coil to slowly, but surely, worm its way out of my womb and wander around my pelvic cavity. It was discovered during an Xray (read more about the ‘finding the coil saga’ here).

Laparoscopy to remove merina coil

To get the blighter out, I needed a laparoscopy, which is keyhole surgery where they enter via the belly button and stick a camera down there. They then fill you with gas so they can see properly and make one or two small incisions to the side of the belly button in order to remove said coil. I only needed one incision and it looks like this… (more…)

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24 Sep, 2014

I’ve not made it much of a secret that I’m a bit lost at the moment (yesterday’s post anyone?! – I even sorted out the shoe cupboard!) – Do you ever feel like that? A sense of not quite fulfilling your potential, that you don’t quite believe in yourself.

I’m the first to admit that this is part of my personality – I’m a bit of a deep thinker (which is code for procrastination mixed with self-deprication) – and now I’m a mum, at home, working alone, I often feel a bit lost a bit more often. But not today ladies! And, do you know why? Because I did some things I love:

Believe in yourself – and do some things you love!

1. I got out of the house and away from my computer. I jumped on a train to visit two lovely ladies…I’ll get to that in a moment.

2. I did some scribbling in my notebook. Seriously, if I use a computer for too long, I start to get scared of using them. Like I’ll ruin it because you can’t backspace and make it perfect! But today I did some free writing. Literally what was in my head made it to paper. It doesn’t make all that much sense and there were spelling mistakes aplenty but it felt good!

3. I did some planning, again away from my computer (I think I might start wearing one of those belly armor blankets around my head because I swear my computer frazzles my brain!). This was advice from the lovely Seriously Hilary and she’s so right, just seeing it written down has really helped me clear my mind and focus on what I need to do.

4. I listened to a couple of albums in full, staring out the train window. Does it get any better than that? I used to be an avid music fan but these days…let’s just say it’s a good job I have DAB in my car so I can listen to 6music, otherwise my life would be silent or mainly The Wheels on the Bus related. {Incidentally, it was First Aid Kit and the Alvvays – loved it!}

5. And this is the biggie…I met with some lovely friends. I’ve not known Katie, from Pouting in Heels, and Vicki, from Honest Mum, long (and I was nervous – what do you wear to go meet such style gurus?! – I opted for long boots as Sarah told me leather was the thing for A/W!) but they are so, so lovely. It was a quick lunch date but just listening to their enthusiasm, discussing ideas, talking through problems, it was all just gold dust to my soul. Or to quote Vicki “my friends are my amour” (maybe I don’t need that blanket after all!).

Believe in yourself - how to be happy and successful!

Ignore the mess – my desire to tidy the house didn’t get past the ground floor!

Dramatic, I know! But the difference in my mood, motivation, moral…lots more Ms…between yesterday and today is immense. I believe in myself again.

Believe in yourself - how to be happy and successful!

So, I would say if you’re feeling down and don’t believe in yourself, whether you’re a blogger or running a fortune 500 company or looking after your kids (the hardest of the three), take a step back. Do something you love, preferably with people you love. It will help you to see what you have achieved and reset the system so you focus on what’s important.

Believe in yourself and be happy!

According to Gary Vaynerchuk in Crush It!, the secret to happiness and success is three things…

1. Love your family

2. Work super hard

3. Live your passion

I’ve got number one covered, but feeling it and acting on it are two different things. So taking a step back allows me to realise that I need to put them first and foremost above everything else. That makes me happy.

In terms of my passion, I certainly love what I do, otherwise I wouldn’t work as hard at it (covering point 2!) but I have an affliction called competitiveness. It is a real bummer. On the one hand it can drive me to really work hard and bust out some work that I’m proud of, but on the other it can stop me enjoying something like Bowling. That saying “it’s the taking part that counts” really is lost on people like me. So, for me, if I don’t take a step back to smell the roses and appreciate what I’ve got, I exist in a land of thorns. My competitive head tells me a) you’re not winning (winning what? I know) and b) there’s no chance of winning so you may as well give up/not bother (there goes that game of Monopoly). But in my real life, there’s nothing to win other than a career doing something I love, which gives me the freedom to spend lots of time with my son.

This is just my example, and you might not be competitive, but I bet there’s something else niggling away at yourself belief. Step away from it now!

I would add to point 1 that you should love your friends too. Because they are the ones that undoubtably bring me back to my senses. A place where I can put my competitive nature to good use, instead of letting it destroy what I’ve worked hard to create; which is writing and coming up with silly videos to do with my baby!

What do you think helps you believe in yourself when you’re feeling a bit lost?

I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below…and do come and join the conversation on the Mums’ Days Facebook wall!

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